"I thought I was the only person in the world who had a baby that had died"

 

Telephone Support

You may want to talk to someone who can listen to how you feel or can help you think through what you want to do. All Forth Valley Sands Befrienders are bereaved parents. You can contact our Befrienders by phone or by text on the following numbers -

Phone support 0845 834 0230
Text support 07748 656478

Phone support is available 9.30am - 9.30pm. If we are unable to answer your call, please leave your name and number and we'll call you back as soon as we can.

We understand it may be difficult to pick up the phone to call us. If you prefer, you can e-mail us on support@forthvalleysands.org.uk 

 

Group Support Meetings

Forth Valley Sands meetings will give you a chance to meet others who have experienced a similar loss. They are a place where you can just be yourself, feel how you want to feel and say what you want to say, without expectations or fear of being judged. We have all felt angry, lonely, let down at times, and desperately sad.  Forth Valley Sands members have often spoken of the utter relief to finally be with people who 'just understand'.

Meetings are very informal and provide a warm, friendly and supportive atmosphere. There is no pressure to talk about your experience or your baby. You do not have to stand up and introduce yourself. In fact, you don't have to talk at all if you don't want to. We understand that it can be difficult to talk to other bereaved parents for the first time. We have all been in the same position and know how hard it can be to take these steps. We will try to support you in whatever way you find helpful.

We meet from 7.30pm - 9.30pm on the dates below in the new Forth Valley Royal hospital in Larbert. 
  

Wed 9th November 2011 Wed 13th June 2012
Wed 14th December 2011 Wed 11th July 2012
Wed 11th January 2012 Wed 8th August 2012
Wed 8th February 2012 Tue 12th September 2012
Wed 14th March 2012 Wed 10th October 2012
Wed 11th April 2012 Wed 14th November 2012
Wed 9th May 2012 Wed 12th December 2012

 

Meetings are held in the meeting room within the Spiritual Care Centre on the ground floor of the main building. Go past the shops and cafes and it is just through the double doors on your right hand. Go through the doors of the Centre and the meeting room is on the right hand side. A sign will usually be on the door.  

If you prefer, a Befriender could meet you at the hospital entrance.

A copy of our support leaflet with phone numbers and meeting dates is available to download here. (MS word document)

 

One to One Support

Alternatively, you may want to talk to a Befriender in person on an individual basis, or together with your partner, rather than in the group session. This can be arranged either at your home or at another suitable location. This would normally happen after an initial phone call with one of the Befrienders.

 

Tracing a Baby's Grave

Many years ago, hospitals did not encourage parents to see their baby, let alone bury their baby. We can offer help and support to trace your baby's burial place using hospital, crematoria and local council records. Please email us on support@forthvalleysands.org.uk for more information.